My husband needs to change. (Don’t they all.) I’ve tried for years to change mine, unsuccessfully, I might add. So I decided it was time to pull out the big guns and pray for him. Certainly God knows he needs to change but maybe he needs a gentle reminder and a list.
A friend of mine leads a Facebook group for women who want to grow spiritually. We’re reading The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian and working through the study guide together. We read a chapter a week, answer the study guide questions on our own, and check-in each morning and share stuff.
My Husband’s Wife
I finish reading the first chapter, “His Wife”, and begin working through the study guide questions.
Question #1: “Is there anything for which you need to ask your husband to forgive you?”
But I can think of a few things for which he should ask my forgiveness.
Well, sort of.
It’s part of the reason I’m reading this book again. I’ve read it at least 6 times in the last 10 years. ‘Cause I’m gonna pray and help him become the man me and God want him to be.
My Heart Bowed Low
I read the question in the book again. “Pray and ask the Lord . . . “
The Lord speaks to my heart.
“You need to ask him to forgive you for continuing to bring it up,” the Lord said before I could even finish reading the sentence.
OK. I’ll pray and ask the Lord if there’s anything I need to ask Eric’s forgiveness for because that’s what the book said to do and I always do things by the book. That’s how you earn a gold star. Follow directions. And I like gold stars. So I’ll pray the way the book says to pray.
“Lord, is there anything I need to . . . “
The Lord speaks.
“You need to ask him to forgive you for continuing to bring it up.”
Sometimes the Lord speaks and we can’t hear because His words aren’t what we want to hear.
I bow my heart low and confess the wall of fear I’ve built.
“Lord if I stop reminding him of it — that thing he did that hurt me — he might forget what he did and he might forget how bad it hurt me and he might do it again.”
The Lord speaks.
He speaks again.
The devil enjoys accusing believers about the things that I, God, have already forgiven.
Do you want to be like him or like Me?”
The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. I hate it. But I love it.
What happens when I pray for my husband?
Often, God starts by giving him a new wife.
“Lord, give my husband a new wife, and let it be me.”
The best kind of wife swap, don’t you think?
My Promise to You
Don’t we all have a few things we’d like to change about our spouse, our boss, our child, our in-laws, our leaders, our church, our neighbor, our . . .?
Everything changes when I pray for God’s will, not my own, to be done in my husband’s life. I see him the way God sees him. I see me in relationship to him the way God sees us.
I have found that to be true about everyone and every thing I want to change. When I take the issue I have about a person or a situation to God and ask for His eyes to see and ears to hear and heart to understand, my own heart is transformed and my world begins to change.
I challenge you to talk to God about the people and circumstances in your life that need to change. I’m not talking about a short bed time prayer. I’m talking get in your car or someplace you can be alone and talk to God as if He’s your best friend sitting across from you. Speak out loud. Ask Him why and how and when about the issues you’re struggling with. Tell Him what you want to happen, what you think should happen, what you wish hadn’t happened.
And then: Ask Him what He thinks about it all.
I promise you He is listening. He is always listening. He already knows what’s really on your heart. But He wants you to talk to Him. Really talk to Him. It’s one of the ways we grow in our relationship with Him.
Then you must listen—You. Must. Listen—and be ready to hear what He has to say.
I promise He will respond. He will answer, guide, teach, change, comfort and let you know in a very special way that He cares about you. (He does this primarily through a Love Letter to you. Seriously. We call it the Bible.)
Pour your heart out to God and read His Word. He will change your life through it.
I’m glad He’s changing me.