Sisters, 80’s Hair, and the Desires of Your Heart

Delight yourself in the Lord;
And He will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

I’ve had some trouble with that verse over the years. It’s a love-hate relationship with 15 words, really. So I want to tell you a story with a few pictures and more words that might explain how I’ve come to terms with this promise from God’s Word and how you can, too.

Invest in Your Hair

I have one sibling, a sister, who’s almost three years younger than me.

She’s been my hairstylist since we were teens. We’ve lived and loved through perms, big hair, side ponytails, all the braids, crimping, flatirons, and now “enhancing my gray strands”. I trust her implicitly. I’ve driven miles and miles to sit in her chair so she can work her magic. She’s really, really good and owns a beautiful salon. Those hair appointments are also a good excuse for us to talk and laugh and stay connected.

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“Invest in your hair; it’s the crown you never take off.”

Each time I sit down in her chair she asks, “So what are we doing today?” For almost thirty years, my response has been the same: “I have no idea. What do you think I need?” She’ll ask a few questions and off she goes to mix her magic potions.

I can confidently ask her the question—what do you think I need— and trust her with an outcome I love because she’s an expert, she knows me and my heart, she loves me, and she wants what’s best for me.

I’ve always loved my hair. Our system works!

Invest in Your Life

As I reflect on my life, I realize the same system works there, too. But I must take care to adhere to the conditions if I want the promised outcome.

Commit your way to the Lord,
Trust also in Him, and He will do it. Psalm 37:5

When I sit in the expert hairstylist’s chair I’m committed to her—I trust her. God wants the same from us.

But too often we focus on the part of Psalm 37:4 that says, “He will give you the desires of your heart” and leave out the conditions of that promise.

  1. Be happy in God.
  2. Give your life to God.
  3. Trust God.

When we come to the place that we can do those things (and do them over and over again each day), we will discover over and over the desires of our heart.

Many, many years ago I surrendered my life to Christ. I sat in His presence and said, “I have no idea what I want to do with my life. What do you think I need?”

I knew I could confidently ask Him that question and trust Him with the outcome because:

  1. God’s the expert.
  • “I am the LORD, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?” Jeremiah 32:27.
  1. God knows me and my heart.
  • “For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb.” Psalm 139:13
  1. God loves me.
  • “God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
  1. God wants what’s best for me.
  • “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

And I’ve always loved my life!

Loving my life doesn’t mean that I haven’t had lots of heartache, disappointment, and grief along the way. What it does mean is that my life is in the hands of the one who created me and died for me so that I could be redeemed. I live as the blood-bought daughter of The King, now and for all eternity! What’s not to love about that?

Delight yourself in the Lord;
And He will give you the desires of your heart.
Commit your way to the Lord,
Trust also in Him, and He will do it. Psalm 37:4-5

All that I am or ever hope to be I owe to the power of the Holy Spirit at work in my life. As I look at my life, I see dreams and miracles in living color. I intend to celebrate the gift of this one life and honor my Lord and Savior by living and serving faithfully as a wife, mother, homemaker, teacher, and writer; and hopefully inspiring you to see the beauty and blessing of your ordinary days.

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One Final Thought

May I ask you a question?

What might God do through your life in the power of the Holy Spirit, if you were willing to dream big and believe in miracles? What might He accomplish through you if you would only throw off your cloak of worry and just enjoy the beauty, dance with the invisible music, and celebrate life? –Sally Clarkson

Dreaming big and believing in miracles doesn’t mean we’ll get everything we want in this life. In the fifth grade, momma was still calling the shots with my hairstyle and doing a great job. (By the way, that patchwork denim jacket with matching jeans was my favorite outfit ever! I love you 1977.) In the sixth grade, I wanted hair like Dorothy Hamill. In the eighth grade, I wanted hair like Farah Faucett. In the tenth grade, I wanted hair like Lisa Whelchel (Blair, Facts of Life).

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Problem was, I wasn’t them and I didn’t have their hair. Before my expert hairstylist, a.k.a. my sister, I had willing hairdressers who did their best to satisfy the hairstyle dreams of a young girl. But those dreams never really worked and often looked like a mess instead of a miracle.

Give God your life. Admit to Him that you don’t really have clue what to do with it. Ask Him what He thinks you need. Then sit back and trust Him with the outcome.

I promise it will be beautiful because He’s the expert in your life, He knows you and your heart, He loves you, and He wants what’s best for you.

P.S. In case you’re feeling like you’ve really messed up and it’s too late for you, know this:

Bad haircuts and DIY color are no challenge for an expert. Just get yourself to a good salon and let them work their magic.

Bad choices and DIY life plans are no challenge for God either. Wherever you are, no matter how long you’ve been there, go to God and surrender your life. He’s waiting for you.

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The quote by Sally Clarkson is from her book, Own Your Life. I’ve been leading a group of ladies through this book this spring and we’ve loved it so much. You can click here to get your own copy.

 

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2 Responses to Sisters, 80’s Hair, and the Desires of Your Heart

  1. Cindy Bean May 15, 2018 at 7:29 am #

    Love reading your posts. Love you friend!

    • Stacy Averette May 15, 2018 at 8:08 am #

      Thank you! Love you, too!